In communities we often impose what we believe is best for everyone through social expectation rather than law and to a large extent this is more effective. Thus, we have created a culture of silence; an expectation of conformity. A society that simply looks the other way.
Sometimes I wonder if what we assume ‘we know’ about the world and life, is what is actually true? Could we have been taught wrong? How many things have we been lied to about?
The majority of us live lives that will not draw any attention. We don’t raise issues, concerns or ask questions. Then no one will judge us or condemn us. No one will single us out of the crowd. We will have lived a life that blended in with society and conformed to what our families expected us to do and social norms dictate. But is that a life that will have made a difference? Will it be a life of fulfilment, purpose and joy? Will it have changed anything? Is it a life that is noteworthy?
And so the most dangerous lies I think, are the lies we tell ourselves. Sometimes the hardest thing about life, is seeing it for what it actually is and not what we want or hope it will be someday.
I suppose living an honest life with oneself is a challenge. It is often easier to keep the illusions alive. Things are going fine. We live according to other people’s expectations and hopefully things will get better. We blend and try not to draw attention to ourselves. And so we continue and slowly, bit by bit, we lose ourselves.
Sometimes the truth is hidden under layers and layers of partial truths. Partial truths are usually more effective than outright lies. Half truths are simply more believable and can hold people in bondage much longer than overt deceit. It’s why deception comes embedded in propaganda.
So here’s the challenge. To strip away the partial truths we have held on to for so long and have a good look at what is real. Then make a decision to take action and live a life that frees ourselves to be all that we can be.
That being said, I have been lying to myself about an addiction to Coke light and caffeine for a very long time. By this time, it has probably changed the colour and texture of blood that my body manufactures; blood with bubbles.
The good news, it's new year’s resolution time, so for the next few weeks, I will lie to myself and tell myself that I will change it next year, starting in January.